What is the most important thing in any relationship?
What we can do for the other person, or what they can do for us?
I’m not exclusively talking about actions, it could be variations on that, like making someone happy, being attractive, exciting someone, and so on.
I’m sure we’d like to say it should be mutual. There should be a trade between both parties, a win win scenario, as they say. But how true is that in reality? Different personalities mean that we all like, want and need different things.
In a perfect relationship each partner knows what the other needs, even when these are different to their own.
Perfection and reality are often worlds apart. That’s why so many relationships fail, are dysfunctional or painful. Perhaps I am a little jaded from personal history. I know that I have certainly failed to meet the needs of others.
There are many types of relationship though, and that is where my initial thought began. I was having one of those spiritual philosophical moments. Specifically, what is the perfect relationship with the divine? Would it be one sided or is it mutual?
I don’t have the answer, but it kept me thinking for a while. Of course it all depends on whether you even think there is anything more beyond or within what can be physically observed.
I still believe in the perfect relationship, between humans and with the divine.
I still live in hope of finding both.