How to banish the blues?

It is better to move toward a dream that appears out of reach, than stand still watching a nightmare on the horizon
I get the blues. I don’t know if it is a side effect of a creative nature, or just that I can be a little miserable. Being creative involves digging deep into our emotions. As such we share a lot of time with some of our deepest, darkest feelings. We also share time with the lightest and happiest moments we have. Creatives can swing quite easily from one feeling to another.

At times I find myself with an attack of the blues. I find my emotions just flip to the negative. I get overwhelmed and I find myself unable to see the positive in anything. I wouldn’t say it is depression*, because it isn’t a constant feeling. I just flit from being happy to flirting with sadness.

Unable to see the positive

During these moments I find myself unable to be positive. I find myself dwelling on an unknown future, and bringing it into the here and now. What if x does, or doesn’t, happen, then things will be terrible? What if I am still in this same position one, two or six months from now? I feel like things will never get better, will never change, things will always be this way.

Or, I do the opposite. I bring the past into the present. If only I had done this, or if only I had done that, and why couldn’t things have happened differently? It’s because of those things that I am here, in this situation now. It is all my fault.

Both the above are projections of events I have no control over in the present. I don’t know what the future holds and I can’t change the past. However, I am letting it affect how I feel. When the blues hit, I can be paralysed into inaction.

What can I do about this?

The solution is to let the present affect the future, and accept that the past is done. I can only control what I do here and now. If I am fearful of a certain future, then it is down to me to avoid it and make the necessary changes in the present. Dwelling on a future that might or might not happen has only one outcome, it makes it more likely to happen.

I remind myself where I would like to be, what I would like to be doing; I realign myself with my goals and desires. I then take the next practical step that will bring that goal closer. It may be something tiny, such as finding out a piece of information. What this does is push to one side the negative thoughts that were stopping me from from acting.

The story of the blues

The blues still return. I still fear certain futures and regret certain past events. These feelings will never be far from me. But I can stop them from controlling me, and you can too. This isn’t the only way to cure the blues, and I’d love to hear what you do, just leave a comment below.

It is better to move toward a dream that appears out of reach, than stand still watching a nightmare on the horizon.

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*If you do think you may be suffering from depression please talk to your doctor, or seek medical advice. This post is not written to be a cure for depression, but to add a little colour to the blues.

It’s my birthday, and I’ll cry if I want to

I thought I would spend today doing exactly what I did 46 years ago; eating, sleeping and crying. In the end I have only managed the first two, but the night is young as yet. I’m not saying I wanted to cry. It just sounded like a good opening and with recent events in my life a little wallowing would be within acceptable norms.

party darren

But, it is all a matter of perspective. I am currently in flux in every, yes pretty much every, aspect of my life. I mentioned this before and everything is still ongoing. I could spend a moment, or longer, and do a Lesley Gore and wail away. I could rant about the unfairness of things and wallow in self-pity, and perhaps shed a tear or two.

However, to be perfectly honest, I feel happier and more alive than I have for years.

It’s my birthday, It’s my party… and the future is full of opportunities, so there is no need to cry, I’ll leave that to Lesley.